We’re living in an age when people need to talk. They don’t communicate.
~ Queen Latifah
We sometimes refuse to talk because we think that nobody will listen. Other times we utter commands or accusations, but we’re not in the mood for discussion; we’ve already made up our minds and we won’t be challenged. We may consciously or unconsciously hope to intimidate, so we bark or bleat or curse or rant–anything but really talk.
Telling someone to “shut up” or shouting an insult does nothing but would and provoke resentment. Not to imply we shouldn’t get angry, but if we never articulate our desires, frustrations, resentment, or hurts, how can we hope to resolve matters? When we take the time to explain ourselves, to our families or to people of different backgrounds, we can open up a dialogue that results in positive change.
On this day, I will visualize myself communicating effectively at work or at home rather than being silent or simply venting hostility.
Excerpts from Black Peals by Eric V. Copage